For many equestrians, riding isn’t a hobby—it’s a part of their identity. The connection with a horse, the community we share with others, and the thrill that comes from riding shape an individual’s sense of self. When this core aspect of identity is disrupted—whether through injury, life changes, or shifts in personal goals—it can lead to a deep sense of loss and confusion. As a therapist and an equestrian, I’ve seen how these identity shifts can impact individuals. Let’s explore how such disruptions occur and how one can navigate them in a healthy way.
Living the Equestrian Life
What Does It Mean To Be An Equestrian Or A Horse Girl?
Being an equestrian is more than just a sport – it’s a way of life. It shapes who you spend time with, how you organize your days, and how you see yourself. The hard work of training, the joy of riding, and the deep connection with horses become a core part of who you are. So, when something disrupts this, it can feel like your whole sense of self is being shaken.
Why Equestrians Lose Their Riding Years And Their Identity
Injuries or Health Problems
If a rider or their horse gets injured or faces health issues, it can make participating in riding activities much harder. Recovery often isn’t just about healing physically – it also involves adjusting emotionally to changes in what you’re able to do.
Life Changes
Major life transitions such as relocating, changing careers/finances, or shifts in family dynamics can interfere with the time and resources available for riding. These changes can create a sense of displacement and challenge one’s ability to maintain their equestrian identity.
Competitions and Goals
Setbacks in shows or changes in long-held goals can shake one’s self-image and motivation. The sense of achievement and validation that comes from reaching equestrian milestones can be deeply intertwined with personal identity.
“I Miss Riding. What Should I Do?”
1. Acknowledge the Loss of Riding
Acknowledging the loss of a central part of your identity is a crucial first step. It’s important to recognize and validate the grief and confusion that accompany this disruption. Allow yourself to mourn the changes, whether it’s the loss of daily rides, the excitement of shows, or the sense of community within the equestrian world. Grieving is a natural process and can be a crucial part of moving forward toward a better future.
2. Reframe Your Identity as an Equestrian
Reframing your identity can be incredibly empowering. Reflect on how your experiences as an equestrian have shaped other aspects of your life. The discipline, patience, and confidence developed through riding can be applied in new and fulfilling ways. By reframing your identity, you can find new avenues to channel these qualities, whether through other activities, career opportunities, or personal growth.
3. Explore New Passions Outside of Riding
Allowing yourself to explore new interests and activities can help ease the transition. This doesn’t mean you need to abandon your love for horses, but rather, you might discover new passions that bring fulfillment and joy. Engaging in new pursuits can provide a fresh perspective and help rebuild a sense of purpose, showing that your identity can evolve in positive and enriching ways.
4. Stay Connected to the Equestrian World
Maintaining connections with the equestrian community can be comforting, even if you’re unable to ride or show as before. Whether through volunteering, attending events, or simply staying in touch with friends, these connections can help you feel grounded and less isolated. Being part of the community, even in a different capacity, can provide a sense of continuity and belonging.
5. Focus on Self-Care
During times of transition, prioritizing self-care is vital. Engage in activities that nurture your physical and emotional well-being. This could include regular exercise, mindfulness practices, or creative outlets. Self-care helps maintain balance and resilience, making it easier to navigate through periods of change.
6. Seek Support From An Equestrian Therapist
Seeking professional support can be highly beneficial. A therapist who understands the complexities of identity shifts, especially those tied to the equestrian world, can offer a safe space to explore your feelings and develop coping strategies. In addition, connecting with support groups for equestrians (or even other athletes) who have faced similar challenges can provide valuable camaraderie and insight.
Equestrian Loss and Trauma: Healing and Adapting Identity
The journey through an identity shift can be challenging, but it also offers opportunities for growth and self-discovery. By acknowledging the disruption, reframing your identity, seeking support, and exploring new passions, you can navigate this transition with resilience. Remember, your identity as an equestrian is a cherished part of who you are, but it’s not the only facet of your being. Embrace the process of redefining yourself, and you might find that your love for horses and riding continues to enrich your life in new and unexpected ways.
Through this journey, you can discover that while one chapter may close, new and fulfilling chapters can open, offering fresh opportunities for connection, purpose, and joy.
Take the Reins on Your Emotional Well-being With Equestrian Therapy in New Jersey
If you’re facing challenges that impact your life in the saddle, therapy for equestrians at Brave Minds Psychological Services can help. Our experienced therapists understand the unique pressures and emotional dynamics of the equestrian lifestyle. Whether you’re dealing with anxiety after a fall, adjusting to life changes, or experiencing equestrian-related trauma, we’re here to support you. Don’t let setbacks keep you from the sport you love. Contact us in Branchburg and Scotch Plains, NJ, or connect online to start your tailored therapy journey. Reach out to us today and get back on track.
EMDR Therapy: A Path to Healing Loss And Trauma For Equestrians
At Brave Minds Psychological Services, we offer EMDR therapy as a powerful tool to help you process and heal from traumatic experiences. EMDR therapy can effectively alleviate the emotional impact of memories that may be hindering your daily life and mental health. It’s designed to help you overcome a variety of challenges, including anxiety, depression, and specific traumatic events. By addressing these issues with EMDR, we can help you achieve a more positive outlook and regain control over your emotional well-being. Discover more about how EMDR can transform your life by visiting our dedicated EMDR page.
These sections aim to effectively communicate the specific services offered, appealing directly to equestrians for the therapy and to a broader audience for the EMDR service. You can start your therapy journey with a caring therapist by following these simple steps:
- Contact us at Brave Minds Psychological Services.
- Speak with one of our caring counselors.
- Start navigating identity shifts with the support you deserve!
Other Services Offered by Brave Minds Psychological Services
Therapy for equestrians is not the only service that Brave Minds Psychological Services offers. Our team of trained therapists knows that you may experience issues that require different approaches, which is why we are happy to offer mental health support in a variety of ways. Other services offered include EMDR, couples counseling, postpartum counseling, food allergies, and birth trauma therapy. In addition, we also offer therapy for trauma and anxiety. Our caring counselors provide mental health services for adults, teens, and children. We offer treatment for teen anxiety, social phobia in teens, child sexual abuse, child anxiety, and more. Prefer building a support network with group therapy? Our therapists also offer several options for group therapy. Our services are offered in person at our Scotch Plains, NJ office and through online therapy in New Jersey.
